Wednesday, 28 November 2012

Sorry I've been gone....

I've been away from the world for a while now and although I've been working as much as I can and of course looking after my lovely Sammy and attempting to look after my fiance Chris as well, my main job has been growing a baby. I have suffered through my first trimester (totally unexpected, I barely felt pregnant at all with Sammy, this one has been like being hit by a tornado) and I'm now starting to feel 'normal' again. Chris calls it 'blooming'. I call it 'rapid expansion'! But we're happy and well.

Sorry I've not been teaching much, I've tried to make it to most of my classes, I've tried to teach people well but I feel as though I have let people down over the past few months in an attempt at holding on to my precious little foetus. Yoga, for the time-being has been placed on the back burner. However I feel more confident as a teacher now I can focus my attention more on my class and deliver a better class. Although I look a bit funny practicing yoga and demonstrating yoga to the class but if you can bare with me, and most of my students have just been FAB and I can't thank them enough for their support, the classes are becoming more interesting and inspiring every week and I feel as though I'm starting to really come into my own!

I'm now focusing my attention on my workshop this Sunday at The Yoga Space, focusing on a slow flow restorative yoga to start, suitable for everyone and ending with a guided meditation, either sitting or lying down. Ending in the best kind of yoga, chocolate yoga therapy, the best way to end any practice! I really can't wait. I really hope to see some of my Yoga Space students there as well as some other people who I haven't met before!
This workshop is really suitable for everyone, never tried yoga before? No worries. Pregnant? So am I, it's cool. Post natal? What a great way to relax! Medical issues, no problem!

So hope to see you soon, and I hope that my old regulars can forgive my sudden absence from work :)


Jules xx

Saturday, 19 May 2012

Ode to Sammybean

When I look at my son I see so many things. Sometimes I see his eyes that look like mine. I usually see his mouth that is just like his dads. His cute ready styled hair frames his face beautifully but usually I just see myself in him, bursting with pride. Not just for his good looks, but how his personality is shaping up to be. His pleases and thank yous, bargaining when he wants a bit more time, a bit more food, a new toy. His counting (getting up to 37 without hinting now!), his truly awful jokes (gets them from his Grandpa). And of course don’t forget his love of playing hide and seek. But also his general good nature and general awesomeness, but also when he’s stroking the cat and giving him cuddles and being super gentle with the beast. When he’s gardening with me with his garden gloves on and his spade. When he’s exploring things in his bedroom with his ‘Sam’ superhero cape on. When he randomly says that people are beautiful and then wants to ring them to tell them, the latest being Auntie Sarah who he said ‘looked like a princess on her wedding day’. When he’s tired and he holds onto his ears and when I pick him up to cuddle him he holds onto my ‘big’ ears too. Of course he has his moments when I yell at him, he does naughty things like any other kid, but I try not to remember it!

On the whole I think I’m pretty lucky, in fact I think that anyone who has anything to do with Sammy and any influence over his life is pretty lucky. If it isn't Sammy wanting Grandma cuddles it’s him wanting to feed the fish with Grandad Michael, or playing hide and seek with Chrissy, or being as tall as Uncle Paul. He is so lucky to have so many family and friends who love him but honestly I think it’s everyone in his life who should be lucky to have him enhancing everyone’s lives. Especially mine. 

So here's my thoughts about parenthood. Love them unconditionally. Count yourself lucky that you have children in your life, whether they're yours or not. Just be there with them and never ever take yourself seriously around them! 


Wednesday, 16 May 2012

15 Things You Should Give Up To Find Happiness:

15 Things You Should Give Up To Find Happiness: 

Here is a list of 15 things which, if you give up on them, will make your life a lot easier and much, much happier. I hold on to so many things as others do too, and they cause a great deal of pain, stress and suffering – and instead of letting them all go, instead of allowing ourselves to be stress free and happy – we cling on to them. Not anymore. Starting today I will give up on all those things that no longer serve me. Are you ready? Here we go:

1. Give up your need to always be right
There are so many of us who can’t stand the idea of being wrong – wanting to always be right – even at the risk of ending great relationships or causing a great deal of stress and pain, for us and for others. It’s just not worth it. Whenever you feel the ‘urgent’ need to jump into a fight over who is right and who is wrong, ask yourself this question: “Would I rather be right, or would I rather be kind?” Wayne Dyer. What difference will that make? Is your ego really that big? 

2. Give up your need for control
Be willing to give up your need to always control everything that happens to you and around you – situations, events, people, etc, you can’t control everything anyway! Whether they are loved ones, co-workers, or just strangers you meet on the street – just allow them to be. Allow everything and everyone to be just as they are and you will see how much better will that make you feel.
“By letting it go it all gets done. The world is won by those who let it go. But when you try and try. The world is beyond winning.” Lao Tzu

3. Give up on blame
Give up on your need to blame others for what you have or don’t have, for what you feel or don’t feel. Stop giving your powers away and start taking responsibility for your life.

4. Give up your self-defeating self-talk
Oh my. How many people are hurting themselves because of their negative, polluted and repetitive self-defeating mindset? Don’t believe everything that your mind is telling you – especially if it’s negative and self-defeating. You are better than that.
“The mind is a superb instrument if used rightly. Used wrongly, however, it becomes very destructive.” Eckhart Tolle.

5. Give up your limiting beliefs
Beliefs about what you can or cannot do, about what is possible or impossible. From now on, you are no longer going to allow your limiting beliefs to keep you stuck in the wrong place. Spread your wings and fly!
“A belief is not an idea held by the mind, it is an idea that holds the mind” Elly Roselle.

6. Give up complaining
Give up your constant need to complain about those many, many, maaany things – people, situations, events that make you unhappy, sad and depressed. Nobody can make you un-happy, no situation can make you sad or miserable unless you allow it to. It’s not the situation that triggers those feelings in you, but how you choose to look at it. Never underestimate the power of positive thinking.

7. Give up the luxury of criticism
Give up your need to criticize things, events or people that are different than you. We are all different, yet we are all the same. We all want to be happy, we all want to love and be loved and we all want to be understood. We all want something, and something is wished by us all.

8. Give up your need to impress others
Stop trying so hard to be something that you’re not just to make others like you. It doesn’t work this way. The moment you stop trying so hard to be something that you’re not, the moment you take off all your masks, the moment you accept and embrace the real you, you will find people will be drawn to you, effortlessly.

9. Give up your resistance to change
Change is good. Change will help you move from A to B. Change will help you make improvements in your life and also the lives of those around you. Follow your bliss, embrace change – don’t resist it.
“Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors for you where there were only walls” Joseph Campbell.

10. Give up labels
Stop labelling those things, people or events that you don’t understand as being weird or different and try opening your mind, little by little. Minds only work when open. “The highest form of ignorance is when you reject something you don’t know anything about.” Wayne Dyer.

11. Give up on your fears
Fear is just an illusion, it doesn’t exist – you created it. It’s all in your mind. Correct the inside and the outside will fall into place.
“The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.” Franklin D. Roosevelt.

12. Give up your excuses
Send them packing, get Alan Sugar on them, point the finger and tell them they’re fired. You no longer need them. A lot of times we limit ourselves because of the many excuses we use. Instead of growing and working on improving ourselves and our lives, we get stuck, lying to ourselves, using all kind of excuses – excuses that 99.9% of the time are not even real.

13. Give up the past
I know, I know. It’s hard. Especially when the past looks so much better than the present and the future looks so frightening, but you have to take into consideration the fact that the present moment is all you have and all you will ever have. The past you are now longing for – the past that you are now dreaming about – was ignored by you when it was present. Stop deluding yourself. Be present in everything you do and enjoy life. Have a clear vision for the future, prepare yourself, but always be present in the now. Life’s a journey not a destination. In the words of the Zen Dog 

‘He knows not where he’s going, 
For the ocean will decide. 
It’s not the DESTINATION... 
It’s the glory of the ride’

-Edward Monkton.

14. Give up attachment
This is a concept that, for most of us is so hard to grasp and I have to tell you that it was for me too, (it still is) but it’s not something impossible. You get better and better at with time and practice. The moment you detach yourself from all things, (and that doesn’t mean you give up your love for them – because love and attachment have nothing to do with one another, attachment comes from a place of fear, while love… well, real love is pure, kind, and self less, where there is love there can’t be fear, and because of that, attachment and love cannot coexist) you become so peaceful, so tolerant, so kind, and so serene. You will get to a place where you will be able to understand all things without even trying. A state beyond words. I don’t believe in attachment parenting, I believe in LOVE parenting!

15. Give up living your life to other people’s expectations
Way too many people are living a life that is not theirs to live. They live their lives according to what others think is best for them, they live their lives according to what their parents think is best for them, to what their friends, their enemies and their teachers, their government and the media think is best for them. I did this for years. Eventually it backfires, trust me. They ignore their inner voice, that inner calling. They are so busy with pleasing everybody, with living up to other people’s expectations, that they lose control over their lives. They forget what makes them happy, what they want, what they need….and eventually they forget about themselves. You have one life – this one right now – you must live it, own it, and especially don’t let other people’s opinions distract you from your path.

So if you’ve read this and thought, wow she must be really serene and enlightened having done all these things then don’t kid yourself. I haven’t done them. I’m trying to do them. All. No apologies for trying to be a better person. 

Just one step at a time....


Thursday, 19 April 2012

Massage Number 1

I have had a new flourish of massage clients over the past few weeks which is ace. And I’ve loved meeting new people, massaging old friends for the first time and returning to well massaged bodies for more work too. It’s all ace for me. 
Every time someone rings me or emails me and asks to come for a massage it makes me happy on the inside, not for my wallet. I’m happy that people value the importance of taking care of themselves, looking after their bodies. And they trust me to help them take care of themselves.  It’s a great job, I really can’t complain. 
Every now again you can get a client who just gets you and what you’re trying to do. They completely relax their body into your hands and allow you to work with them and in the end they get so much more out of the massage than just relaxation or looser shoulders or whatever they came in for. They get this calm serene look on their faces. It almost looks a bit like they’re drunk, but drunk on happiness. And when I see that look in people, it immediately reminds me of why I trained and why I’m the luckiest person in the world for getting to do this wonderful job. 

Monday, 16 April 2012

Another vegan delight!

So here's another recipe for some vegan loveliness! Enjoy! 

Rice and Lentil Salad

Great as a side dish for a BBQ, a lunch salad or as part of a main meal. Easy to make and super filling!

Serves 12

·      500g brown rice
·      300g puy lentils
·      3 spring onions
·      1 small red onion
·      5 tbsp soy sauce
·      7 tbsp olive oil
·      3 tbsp lemon juice
·      Salt and pepper to taste

1.    Bring 1.5litres water to the boil, cook rice until done. Bring 900ml water to the boil in a different pan, add lentils and cook until done but not mushed up, around 30 mins. Drain both well and rinse with cold water. You can cook them both in the same pan if you want with 2.5 litres of water.
2.    Finely chop onions. Whisk the dressing ingredients together and combine everything in a large bowl.  Yes, it’s that easy!

Jules Staveley

Thursday, 12 April 2012

I like you because....

Here's the reading I read for my brothers wedding last week. I didn't write it, or choose it, and at first I didn't even like it that much. However, after reading it over and over for about a year, it grew on me. And now I love it. So enjoy! 

"I like you, and I know why. I like you because you are a good person to like.

I like you because, when I tell you something special, you know it’s special and you remember it a long long time.
When I think something is important, you think it’s important too.

When I say something funny you laugh; I think I’m funny and you think I’m funny too. I like you because you know where I’m ticklish, and you don’t tickle me there, except, just a tiny little bit, sometimes.
You know how to be silly, that’s why I like you. I never met anybody sillier than me til I met you.

You really like me, don’t you? And I really like you back, and you like me back, and I like you back. And that’s the way we keep on going, every day.

I like you because, if we go away together, and if I get lost, then you are the one that is yelling for me. I like you because everything that happens is nicer with you. I can’t remember when I didn’t like you.

I like you because... so many reasons. I will go on choosing you, and you will go on choosing me, over and over again. That’s how it will happen every time.

Why do I like you? I guess... I just like you."

Sooper Doopa Veggie Frittatas

Another one of my vegan delicacy's soon to be featuring in Boo Magazine!  

Super Doopa Veggie Frittatas!
Vegetrian? Vegan? Gluten or wheat free? This ones for you!

Does your kid turn their nose up at veg? Yeah mine does too! So, hide tons of veggies in these scrummy frittatas and watch the kids (and grow ups!) wolf them down and ask for more! Make extra, and put them in the lunch box for school or work the next day. Great eaten hot or cold!
Ingredients (makes 8 - ish)

·         2 potatoes, peeled, grated
·         1 carrot, grated
·         2 cougettes,  grated
·         125g can sweetcorn, drained
·         1 onion, finely chopped or grated
·         75g self-raising flour (can be gluten free)
·         1/2 tsp salt
·         Handful of chopped parsley
·         3 free range eggs
·         2 tbsp olive oil
For hardcore Vegans – I recommend using Ener-G Egg replacer. It’s about £7.20 and equal to about 100 eggs. So you can use it for anything and everything!  

1.      Add together potatoes, carrot, courgette, sweetcorn, onion, flour, salt, parsley and Ener-G or egg in a bowl. Stir to combine.
2.       Heat a large pan over medium heat. Add a little oil. Use a large desert spoon to measure out each frittata. Cook for 5 minutes and turn over until browned. Repeat as needed.
Maybe serve with.....
Some gluten free burger buns, salad and egg free mayo. They’re also great with Quinoa and baked Aubergine. I sometimes use them as a meat substitute for a Sunday dinner.

Vegan Chickpea Burgers

Just thought I'd pop a few recipes on here, soon to be in the pages of Boo Magazine! 

Vegan Chickpea Burgers

Wheat free, dairy free, nut free, meat free. It’s the vegan’s paradise at BBQ time..

  • 1 baking potato, cut into chunks
  • 1 carrot, chopped
  • ½ red pepper, diced into small pieces
  • 1 can chickpeas, drained and rinsed
  • 1 small onion, diced
  • 1 tsp garlic puree
  • 1 tsp garam masala
  • Juice of ½ or whole lemon (add to taste)
  • 3 tbsp oatmeal
  • 1 dessert spoon tahini
  • Tsp vegetable bouillon
  • 2 tbsp water
  • ½ - whole red chilli (depending on taste)
  • Salt and pepper
  • Heaped tbsp of fresh coriander
  • Dessert spoon of oil
  1. Heat the oven to 170°C
  2. Put the potato and carrot into a pan, cover with boiling water and a little salt, bring to the boil and cook.
  3. Drain, put into a big bowl and mash.
  4. Boil the chickpeas in water according to instructions on the tin. Drain and mash, and add to the potato mixture.
  5. Sauté the onions in a tbsp of oil for a few minutes until they start to soften.
  6. Add the chilli then curry powder and cook for one or two minutes, then add the peppers, 2 tbsp of water and cook for a few more minutes until water has nearly evaporated. Add to the potato and chick pea mash.
  7. Then add the tahini, coriander, garlic and lemon juice to the cooked chickpeas and mix well. Season to taste.
  8. Tip the oatmeal into a dish.
  9. Divide the burger mixture into 6, take one portion, mould into burger shape and coat in the oatmeal.
  10. Then either pan fry quickly on each side until golden and put onto lightly greased baking tray in oven for 10 minutes, or simply put onto the baking tray in oven for 15-20 minutes.
Ok so they’re not cooked on the BBQ, but just bring them outside when they’re done and eat in the lovely sunshine!

Maybe serve with...
Great in wheat free burger buns with lettuce, tomato and dairy free mayo. Also you could try a big old dollop of houmous on there too.



Friday, 30 March 2012

Confessions from a yoga mat...

So I haven't done my yoga practice today - oops! I decided to have a rest day. I think when people practice Ashtanga yoga they can get addicted to it, addicted to the sequence and addicted to the feeling you get in Savasana at the end of a heavy Ashtanga practice and when they don't do it one day they feel this guilt about it. I don’t think there's a need to. Skipping practice is fine, but if you’re serious about maintaining your yoga practice you should try for 4 or 5 times a week.

There are lots of aspects of yoga that don't include any physical asanas at all, meditation (of which I think I like the most, feeling calm and still and learning how to be calm and still really relaxes me), learning to be a better person, loving other people. Ashtanga literally means 8 limbs, so what about them? Surely following the 8 limbs everyday is enough? Of course, the 8 limbs include asana practice, but 7 out of 8 is a good start.

The truth is, no one is a perfect yogi. Getting up at 6 am and 'forcing' or 'guilting' yourself into doing a 2 hour Ashtanga practice is just as un-yogic as not doing any asana practice! The main purpose of the yogic path is to follow your body, listen to what it's telling you. If you’re one of those people who say ‘when I start practicing then I’ll enjoy it’ then do you really want to do it? Or do you feel like you have to? If your body is telling you to get on your mat then ace, get going, practice at home or get to a guided class or Mysore and love every minute of it. But if it's saying 'hey Jules, chill out today, why not eat some houmous?' then you know what? I'm gonna eat the houmous, and I'll enjoy it too.